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Get Out of the Way

By K.C. Bateman

I have been a single parent of a little boy since he was 7 months old. There have been many challenges and lessons learned over the last 5 years. As I sit here and watch how easily he plays with kids he has never met before, I am reminded of one of the more recent lessons. I have observed this repeatedly over the last 6 months or so, since my son turned 5.

I have learned to stay out of his way.

Now it hasn’t always been this way. It has been and continues to be a gradual process of giving him the independence to let him be him. I don’t ignore him or neglect him. In fact, I still make a considerable effort to anticipate his needs for food, activities, routine, sleep etc. However when we are in the moment and he is with other children, playing happily, I usually just stay out of his way. He respects others and plays well with them. If I try to get involved he sometimes even tells me to go away. In these moments I am tremendously proud of him.

With all the talk about Helicopter parenting these days…I can honestly say I am not one. My son is thriving and his level of awesomeness is extremely high!

K.C. Bateman is a single dad living in Burlington, Ontario. You can follow him on Twitter at @kcbateman .

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I founded Mums 'n Chums in 2009 after realizing that the area I live in was drastically underserviced as compared to surrounding areas for support and activities for growing families. Mums 'n Chums grew popular very quickly and I have been dedicated to nurturing that growth through frequent networking, social media engagement and in person meetups. By the end of its first year, Mums 'n Chums had close to 500 members and was receiving regular inquiries from fans outside of its service area, asking when we would be expanding to serve them as well. After much careful research and polling, I expanded the site in May of 2011 to cover the entire North end of the GTA (from Cambridge to Markham), areas I believe are still receiving far less attention than they deserve from other sites and family services. We also changed the focus from small scale local mom and tot meetups to more of an informative purpose, closing down our forum and adding several talented contributors to the blog. We do still offer several large scale family events per year, such as our popular Birthday Bash events and our Holiday Bash in December. Our contests have also become a member favourite, and we strive to offer amazing prizes from trusted brands like Babies R Us, La Roche Posay, Johnson's Baby and many more. In March of 2016, after months of work spent migrating all of the site's content to a new platform, Mums 'n Chums re-launched with its fresh, new look. The changes and expansion have proven a great success and we're still getting inquiries from several other cities within the Greater Toronto Area, whom we have decided to serve as well. I have built this site and its' reputation carefully and look forward to continuing its growth!