Mother’s Day Message: No Time For Haters

Mom and newborn baby

Aren’t moms amazing?

By: Sara Hodge

Mother’s Day. Despite what the retail world would have us believe, it’s not about diamond-encrusted heart shaped pendant necklaces. It’s about moms. It’s about the myriad of amazing things moms do, most of which go completely unnoticed. More specifically, it’s about honouring moms.

Kind of a no brainer, really, and not just something that should occur to us with the prodding of cheesy TV commercials once a year.

Honouring moms? Yes, let’s do that.

Let’s do it NOW.

And what is the best way to honour our moms? How about by no longer dishonouring them?

Why do moms have haters, anyway?

For a society that supposedly reveres its’ mothers, you sure wouldn’t know it. On any given day, and at every turn, Moms are being judged by society, the press, and even other moms for the choices they make and there seems to be no acceptable action. The pressure to be a “mom enough” (whatever that means) and conform to countless, often conflicting, impossible standards is, frankly, suffocating. Agendas vary- some are monetary, some political and some personal in nature, but ALL of them are damaging. Somebody sit me down and explain to me how this is acceptable.

 When you dishonour a mom, you dishonour all moms.

Do we all parent the same way? No. Do the vast majority of us do the things we do with our children’s best interests in mind? Yes.

Which of those two things matters?

Mother’s Day is not about expensive jewellery. It’s also not an appropriate time to criticize how we choose to feed our babies. It’s about celebrating and valuing the qualities moms strive to instill in their children: love, patience, acceptance, compassion. It’s about family and the best things in life being priceless moments.

As mothers, those are the gifts we give to the world. It’s NOT too much to ask for those things to be returned on us. Not only on one day of the year, but every day.

Honour the mothers in your life, and also the ones you don’t know. And may they honour you as well. I don’t know about you, but I have no time for the haters.

Happy Mother’s Day to all moms.

~ Sara.

Sara HodgeMy name is Sara Hodge and I’m the founder of Mums ‘n Chums. I’m also mom to two beautiful, busy little boys and lucky wife of a very understanding man. My passion is supporting and connecting moms and when I’m not doing that I’m usually working on some kind of overly ambitious side project (also for the purpose of supporting moms). I write the interviews and product reviews for Mums ‘n Chums and, when I get a rare moment to myself I sometimes get the chance to write an editorial.

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I founded Mums 'n Chums in 2009 after realizing that the area I live in was drastically underserviced as compared to surrounding areas for support and activities for growing families. Mums 'n Chums grew popular very quickly and I have been dedicated to nurturing that growth through frequent networking, social media engagement and in person meetups. By the end of its first year, Mums 'n Chums had close to 500 members and was receiving regular inquiries from fans outside of its service area, asking when we would be expanding to serve them as well. After much careful research and polling, I expanded the site in May of 2011 to cover the entire North end of the GTA (from Cambridge to Markham), areas I believe are still receiving far less attention than they deserve from other sites and family services. We also changed the focus from small scale local mom and tot meetups to more of an informative purpose, closing down our forum and adding several talented contributors to the blog. We do still offer several large scale family events per year, such as our popular Birthday Bash events and our Holiday Bash in December. Our contests have also become a member favourite, and we strive to offer amazing prizes from trusted brands like Babies R Us, La Roche Posay, Johnson's Baby and many more. In March of 2016, after months of work spent migrating all of the site's content to a new platform, Mums 'n Chums re-launched with its fresh, new look. The changes and expansion have proven a great success and we're still getting inquiries from several other cities within the Greater Toronto Area, whom we have decided to serve as well. I have built this site and its' reputation carefully and look forward to continuing its growth!