Passion Diva: March 2012: Can You Teach an Old Dog New Tricks?

Two swans

Bring some romance back into your relationship with advice from Passion Diva Michelle Lockwood


By: Michelle Lockwood

Can you teach an old dog new tricks????

*After 15 years together, my husband and I are in THAT place*…..you know….the one that some refer to as “comfortable” and others call it like it is….

a RUT.

If you have been with someone for quite a while then you know exactly what I am talking about.

Intimacy in the bedroom with someone you have been with for a long time can become a well choreographed dance. He puts his hand here, I put my hand there, he puts his lips there, etc, etc.

This isn’t always a bad thing, I mean, chances are he is putting his hands & lips THERE because it works. But it sure can fizzle the “excitement” factor.

So how exactly does one bring back the excitement, the thrill, the za-za-zoom? Enter “Choose Your Pleasure”.

Players take turns rolling the die. If the die comes up HER, she draws a card from the HER deck and may choose ONEof the two activities (and vice-versa for him).

Sounds easy enough, right??? HA!

Cupid was kind enough to leave this on the bedside table, so for fun we opened it up. The first thing we did was divide the cards into the HIS and HERS piles. Then we each went through the cards dividing our pile into 2 more piles…..the “Yes” pile, and the “Not A Chance!!!” pile. Upon reviewing the YES pile we found that everything listed was something we had already experimented with and either kept or discarded from the usual “choreographed dance”. That left the “Not A Chance” pile…..which leads me to ask: Can you teach an old dog new tricks?? Can you take 2 happily married people who know what pushes their buttons, and ask them to go outside of their “comfort zone”????

That is for me to know…..and for you to experiment with on your own 😉

Michelle LockwoodMichelle Lockwood

Michelle is a Passion Parties Independent Consultant, suburban housewife and mother of 2. “I fill my weekdays with playdates, library visits, grocery shopping, laundry, learningABCs, potty training and more. However, on the weekends, that is my time to slip into my sassy jeans, put on some mascara, and turn into a PASSION DIVA. Every weekend I walk into the living rooms of other women and spend 1.5 hours sharing all of the fabulous & exciting ways that they can enhance the passion in their relationships in a fun & educational format.” For more information on PARTY BOOKINGS, BECOMING A CONSULTANTor to SHOP ONLINE visit www.mishlockwood.com Follow Michelle on Twitter

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I founded Mums 'n Chums in 2009 after realizing that the area I live in was drastically underserviced as compared to surrounding areas for support and activities for growing families. Mums 'n Chums grew popular very quickly and I have been dedicated to nurturing that growth through frequent networking, social media engagement and in person meetups. By the end of its first year, Mums 'n Chums had close to 500 members and was receiving regular inquiries from fans outside of its service area, asking when we would be expanding to serve them as well. After much careful research and polling, I expanded the site in May of 2011 to cover the entire North end of the GTA (from Cambridge to Markham), areas I believe are still receiving far less attention than they deserve from other sites and family services. We also changed the focus from small scale local mom and tot meetups to more of an informative purpose, closing down our forum and adding several talented contributors to the blog. We do still offer several large scale family events per year, such as our popular Birthday Bash events and our Holiday Bash in December. Our contests have also become a member favourite, and we strive to offer amazing prizes from trusted brands like Babies R Us, La Roche Posay, Johnson's Baby and many more. In March of 2016, after months of work spent migrating all of the site's content to a new platform, Mums 'n Chums re-launched with its fresh, new look. The changes and expansion have proven a great success and we're still getting inquiries from several other cities within the Greater Toronto Area, whom we have decided to serve as well. I have built this site and its' reputation carefully and look forward to continuing its growth!