Why I Evicted My Uterus

Why I Evicted My Uterus www.mumsnchums.com

by guest contributor Kelly Friis

 

First a little background on me: I am a 41 year old SAHM of 2. I live in a quiet town outside of Toronto. My children, 10 & 6, are in many activities and have busy social calendars.

Around 3 years ago, I had a tubal ligation. I was nearing 40 and after some challenges in both first trimesters, my husband and I decided our family was complete. The surgery was a logical step for us, for me.  Immediately following the surgery, I began experiencing side effects. My periods became increasingly heavier and my once-mild cramps seemed to amplify more every month.  My first thought was, “My body is still recovering, I’ll see if it levels out in a few months.”

Anyone with 2 kids knows that a few months can take a lifetime. A year and a half later, things were even worse.  I was now spending on average 2-3 days a month on the sidelines of my life, heating pad firmly pressed to my abdomen. I was going through tampons and pads in record time and eating ibuprofen like it was the essence of life itself.

It was at this point I figured I should talk to my doctor.

He listened to my complaints, my symptoms and read the little “period journal” I brought along. I left that appointment with a script for pills to reduce the cramps and volume of bleeding as well as a req for an ultrasound. The test showed I was the proud owner of 7.4cm fibroid on my uterus.  Fibroids are non-cancerous mass, no one seems to know why they appear, but they do. And mine was a doozy. I got a referral to an OBGYN.

My OBGYN, who later became my surgeon, ordered another ultrasound after she tried to do an internal exam but the size of my fibroid made that impossible. It was at this appointment she suggested treatment options. There are medicines that can be injected directly into the mass laparoscopically or we could try to surgically remove the fibroid.

However, in her experience and given my family history (my biological mom had recurring fibroids), a more effective option would be a total abdominal hysterectomy.

Let me tell you, those 3 words were received by my ears with the singing of angels. The OBGYN explained I would receive a caesarean style incision and that everything would come out except my ovaries. They would stay to allow a more natural progression into menopause. I signed the consent forms that day.

Many women feel their uterus and ability to bear children is a large part of their identity. After all, it’s one of the most female things we get to do in our lives. Losing your uterus, regardless of why, can be devastating. Mentally, it can bring about depression and feelings of inadequacy. These are normal and rational feelings.

I, however, didn’t feel any of them.

It was like winning the lottery.  No more sitting on the sidelines, no more early nights to bed, no more “Mommy isn’t feeling well”. After a brief recovery period, I was going to get to LIVE again.

I am now 11 days post op.  To be honest, recovering from this is similar to childbirth, in that you have really good days and other days, brushing your teeth drains your energy. Facebook has provided great access to support groups and I’ve made friends who are experiencing this along with me.

No, they are not medical professionals, they aren’t intended to take the place of sound medical advice, just women I can bounce ideas off of and get a much needed “you got this girl!” pep talk from. I’ve stopped taking my prescribed pain meds and getting up and out of bed is less of a chore now than those first post-op days, although to the outsider, I’m sure it’s comical. Picture a seal climbing out of a pool.

We are going on a family vacation to Mexico in December. My goal is to be healed and restored enough to swim with my kids in the ocean and dance in the sand with my husband. Most of all, I can’t wait to wear my white bikini. #teamwhitepants

 

About the Author: “Kelly Friis is a stay at home mom who volunteers at her children’s school, takes adult hip hop and always looks for a silver lining.”

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I founded Mums 'n Chums in 2009 after realizing that the area I live in was drastically underserviced as compared to surrounding areas for support and activities for growing families. Mums 'n Chums grew popular very quickly and I have been dedicated to nurturing that growth through frequent networking, social media engagement and in person meetups. By the end of its first year, Mums 'n Chums had close to 500 members and was receiving regular inquiries from fans outside of its service area, asking when we would be expanding to serve them as well. After much careful research and polling, I expanded the site in May of 2011 to cover the entire North end of the GTA (from Cambridge to Markham), areas I believe are still receiving far less attention than they deserve from other sites and family services. We also changed the focus from small scale local mom and tot meetups to more of an informative purpose, closing down our forum and adding several talented contributors to the blog. We do still offer several large scale family events per year, such as our popular Birthday Bash events and our Holiday Bash in December. Our contests have also become a member favourite, and we strive to offer amazing prizes from trusted brands like Babies R Us, La Roche Posay, Johnson's Baby and many more. In March of 2016, after months of work spent migrating all of the site's content to a new platform, Mums 'n Chums re-launched with its fresh, new look. The changes and expansion have proven a great success and we're still getting inquiries from several other cities within the Greater Toronto Area, whom we have decided to serve as well. I have built this site and its' reputation carefully and look forward to continuing its growth!